Speaker Information


Grandparents parenting Grandkids 


Presentations customized to your needs and timeframes. Please see below for speaker information and suggestions to start your planning . Call 503 722-8091 or email callander3@comcast.net for additional information including fees and availability.

Presentation Topics:

Visitations, Boundaries and Transitions.  Whether visitations are court mandated and/or negotiated, youth deserve happy memories and a safe place to call home.  Five types of visitations, including prison, holiday and non-supervised, are discussed with tips for helping young ones and teens cope with each.  Simple tips are discussed to make transitions less stressful and help children set appropriate boundaries.

Handling Tough Questions.  Learn how to answer questions from grandchildren about their birthparents in honest, non-threatening ways.  Tips for anticipating difficult situations such as drawing a picture of their family, creating a family tree or questions from educators for special programs and then helping young children and teens practice responses can help them to develop self-esteem, communication skills and reduce inappropriate behaviors brought about by stress or not knowing how to handle a situation.

-Parenting Children of Trauma.  Young children and teens who have experienced trauma respond to everyday circumstances and requests differently than their peers.  Learn what parenting and classroom styles work best including the need for structure and schedules, choices rather than dictates and consistent consequences.

Refocus & Reconnect:  Changing Childhoods, Restoring Hope, Enjoying Today.  Families parenting grandkids face a tangle of emotional, legal and practical challenges often resulting from parental use of drugs or alcohol. Explore simple techniques to reduce stress by tweaking parenting styles, setting boundaries, initiating needed legal acttions, and changing a few everyday words and phrases.  Embrace the many positives of parenting and let your grandkids help you define your families’ “new normal”.

Speaker information:

Joan is a grandmother, mom, and speaker who talks from her heart about the difficulties and rewards of parenting your adult child’s children.  A national keynote speaker, workshop leader and motivational speaker, Joan who lives in Oregon, has spoken to groups of all sizes–from Connecticut to Kentucky to California.   A free-lance writer she has written for The Oregonian, Portland Family Magazine and other publications.

Comments from others:

“I hope you know how much your information, as a result of life experience, means to these grandparents.  They often feel alone in their struggles…hearing you speak helps them feel not so alone.”  Susi Deeds, Family Caregiver Support Specialist, Senior & Disability Services, Oregon.  

“Joan Callander Dingle, member of Generations United Grand network and Grandfamilies Advisory Group, was invited to give remarks on a panel (at the White House) about preventing children from re-entering foster care.  She did a fabulous job!”   Jaia Peterson Lent, Deputy Executive Director, Generations United, Washington D.C.

“Keynote speaker excellent-very knowledgeable about children’s experiences, the process and experience of caregivers.”  Attendee Pierce Country Washington Relatives Raising Children Conference.

“Top notch conference speaker.  Our audience of kinship caregivers raved about her outstanding, informative and insightful presentation.  Relevant and inspirational.”  Maura Provencher, Director of Information Management for Connecticut Association of Foster & Adoptive Parents.


Grandparents Raising Grandkids
Faith, family and fun in that order. Christmas 2014 with our three sons and their wives and one of our five granddaughters.
Speaker: White House 2015 Foster Care-Preventing Re-entry
Joan at White House briefing on foster care.